I’ve Learned

I’ve learned – That you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

- that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

- that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

- that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

- that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.

- that it’s not what happens to people that’s important. It’s what they do about it.

- that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

- that either you control your attitude or it controls you.  The same goes for stress.

- that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

- that learning to forgive takes practice.

- that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

- that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

- that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.

- that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many years you’ve lived.

- that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed you.

- that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others.  Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

- that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

- that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other and just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

- that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

- that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret.  It may be something you don’t want to hear…and it could change your life forever.

- that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

- that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

- that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.

- that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

- that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

- that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

- that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.